In stunned silence, How could this be? How could a thing like this happen to me? I am… Not a child. I am… Not a female. And I am strong. And yet it happened, To me. I, want to scream, I, want to cry, I, want to be angry. And yet I sit here… In […]
Author: Amy Marschak
I wanted to reach out to all survivors who have spoken out and told their stories and to those who realize that they are survivors but have remained silent. All survivors have the right to heal, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, country of origin, regardless of anything. So where to start? Not keeping
I really like these affirmations and although they are written for male survivors, I think they can be helpful for female survivors also. These affirmations are taken from http://www.malesurvivor.org (written halfway down the frontpage on this website) “10 Daily Affirmations for Male Survivors” by Dr. Howard Fradkin Recovery is absolutely possible and achievable for me.
As Mother’s Day is quickly approaching and then Father’s Day will soon follow, it can be very hard for survivors of incest and abusive families on those “holidays”. You may not want to speak with your mother who abused you or enabled the perpetrator to abuse you. And yet there are commercials all over the
“Healing may result in forgiveness but forgiveness does not bring healing,
it only covers over the wounds allowing them to fester.” -An Advocate for Abuse Survivors
I am frequently asked but others, have you forgiven your dad? Sometimes I am even asked that question before people ask me how I am doing now? Have I healed? Am I living well? Many people equate forgiving my dad to healing. I find this way of thinking…
Pent up inside
I remember when I was little
We would be coming home
From grandma’s house
And I couldn’t take being in the car anymore
So lets say that a feeling of panic comes up, without realizing it, when we walked into the room the light was exactly the same as the light we saw when we were abused. We feel anxious, we want to run, get away and our heart is pounding.